The headlights are one of the biggest problems I've had with this car. I can run my brights all the time and anyone that I meet on the road doesn't even know I have my headlights on. The transmission is in bad shape, slips anytime you punch it going over 40 mph. Had the A/C worked on numerous times. Freon was leaking from it's reservoir. Any time you are drive with the windows down and your going over 30 mph the windows won't seal at the top, you have to slow down to about 20. I hate the cup holders. Who ever thought of that I'm sorry that was bad.
The handling on this car is great. It sticks to road at high speeds well. One of the smoothest rides I've driven. Minimal room for who ever has to sit in the back.
I think you just got bad luck, I have a 1995 4.6 sohc blah blah blah auto (bought it new for 18000 back in 95) so I know everything has been done to it, and I've had the upkeep on it taken care of and the car is a dream even though it only has 60k miles. I haven't had a problem with anything.